Today I wanted to take a minute to touch on a subject that many moms and dads struggle with. Making the decision to allow your baby to cry it out or not to is, for some, a struggle. For me, my viewpoint and decision on the topic was a no brainer.
Babies cry. They all do. They cry because they’re hungry, because they’ve got a wet diaper, or just want to be held and have cuddle time. They cry because they’re bored, because they need parental interaction through talking to them and touching their face, or because they just feel like it. They cry when they’re tired, or are in pain, or need some sort of mental stimulation.
Knowing these things is the reason why I can’t just allow my baby to cry it out. For me, a crying baby is a baby trying to communicate. I can’t stand by on the sidelines while my child cries – or, tries to communicate something to me – and I don’t meet that need. Even if it’s bedtime, I cannot just allow him to cry it out. I am that mom that has, since day one, held my child every time he falls asleep, and I still lay and cuddle with him to get him to sleep. He’s about to be 9 months old on the 16th, and I still do. It’s just part of who I am as a mother.
Some people shame me for it, and tell me I am spoiling my son by not allowing him to cry it out, or that I will be sorry later on. Sorry, I’m not going to change what I do as a mother simply because you don’t agree with my decisions – nor will I talk down on you because you choose to practice the cry it out method. This is what works for me, and for my family. This is what makes me feel comfortable. And above all, this is what makes my baby feel comfortable. So, this is what I do.
While allowing a baby to cry it out may be right for some families, it’s just not right for mine.
I know I’m not alone in this. How many of my readers and mom friends don’t practice the cry it out method? I’d love to hear from you in a comment.